If you have a family law dispute you need to resolve and you’d like to avoid going to court, attending mediation could be the solution.
Is the Family Court mediation process suitable for everyone?
Although many people find the mediation process useful, it isn’t suitable for everyone. For example, the family court mediation process is often not suitable where:
- There are circumstances of urgency
- There is a significant power imbalance between the parties or allegations of domestic violence.
- The process is being used to avoid having to provide full and frank financial disclosure.
The Mediation Process
1) Preparation
To prepare for mediation, you should discuss your situation with your lawyer, and provide them with copies of all relevant documentation. You should also discuss with them the points you’re willing to negotiate on and what you consider non-negotiable.
Your lawyer will then discuss your options with you. Once they have reviewed all the relevant documentation, they will assist you in making fully informed, and/or commercially considered decisions.
2) The Format is Arranged
The format of your mediation session will depend on your requirements, as well as the requirements of the mediator. If you and your former partner are on speaking terms and can be civil with each other and there are no allegations of domestic violence, then the mediation can initially start with you both in the same room.
Most mediators tend to engage in what is known as a ‘shuttle mediation’. In a shuttle mediation, you and your former partner might start in the same room for the ‘intake session’. But from there, you’ll be in different rooms, and the mediator will move between you both, relaying information and offers.
3) The Mediator Will Discuss Aims & Expectations
At the beginning of the session, the mediator will discuss the aims of the session and what is expected of everyone. From there, the mediator will often speak to the parties separately and ask the lawyers for a private meeting to discuss the points of contention, or potential proposals for resolution.
4) Proceedings Move Towards an Agreement
The main goal of mediation is for you and your former partner to reach an agreement. If you do reach an agreement, then you should always discuss it fully with your lawyer before signing any settlement documents.
If all parties believe that the agreement is mutually beneficial, then it can be formalised by a Parenting Plan or a Consent Order (if it’s a parenting matter), or it can be formalised as Consent Orders or a Financial Agreement (if it’s a financial matter).
What to expect from your mediation
Although some people initially dislike the idea of seeing, let alone attending mediation with their ex partner, there are several benefits to doing so.
Mediation FAQs
- Exchanging disclosure
- Making inquiries and inviting other parties to mediation or other forms of alternative dispute resolution (where it is safe to do so)
- Participate in dispute resolution; and
- Giving the other party notice that you intend to commence proceedings, and making an offer to settle within that warning.
- That mediation was unsafe for one party; or
- Offered mediation, but the other party did not participate; or
- Attended mediation and made a reasonable attempt to resolve the matter.
- you have reached an agreement and are applying to the court for a Consent Order;
- your matter is considered to be urgent;
- there has been or there is a risk of child abuse;
- there has been or there is a risk of domestic violence;
- you are responding to a court application made by your ex-partner;
- your matter has been ‘screened out’ as unsuitable for Family Dispute Resolution.

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